Goodbye to My Sweet Sophie

Sat, Mar 20, 2010

Loss & Memorial


Today I had to say goodbye to my sweet kitty Sophie. Sophie was an older cat, probably around 20, I’m not sure. She had only been with me for five years, coming to me after her owner passed away. She was such a tough cookie, fighting kidney failure, feline diabetes, and arthritis. She just kept going and going, and I know she would still be going if her little body hadn’t given out.

This is the first cat that I’ve lost as an adult and I’m just heartbroken. Even though I knew she’d be the first to go, you’re never really prepared to loose one. As you probably can tell, my cats mean the world to me and I cherish every moment I have with them. These little creatures are there every day as part of your life. You build a daily routine with them and when one leaves, there’s a hole.

I know this is what everyone says when someone you love passes away, but this experience is just a reminder to appreciate the time you have with your feline companions. These special little souls are each so unique — they are full of personality and can touch our lives in deep and meaningful ways. Everyone, please go give your kitties a kiss and tell them how much you love them.


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300 Responses to “Goodbye to My Sweet Sophie”

  1. 251

    I am so so sorry for your loss. As I was reading your blog on my phone, I had my sweet kitty Shadow in my lap and I gave him a huge kiss on the nose. I love my little guys with all my heart and can only imagine the pain you are in. Know that all or your loyal followers are thinking of you…

  2. 252

    Sophie is precious, & she’ll always be. I know how sad you are, & how the tears just burst out for weeks and even months afterward. Just know you added to her special life too, & that you’ll be together again, with her trotting along just in front of your feet showing you the way to that beautiful place she is in now. I had to put my 18 year old Felix down 10 years ago & I still miss him & smile and cry about him. God surely wouldn’t have a perfect place like heaven awaiting us if animals are there also. They truly add so much to our lives, I couldn’t imagine living without them. Read the rainbow bridge, even though it will take you several times to get through it without breaking down. It is so beautiful, and it helps me deal by being without my baby, and several other cats and a special dog too. You’re right, they’re all different but such special gifts to be in our lives for however long enough we’re lucky to share life with them. You’ll see that beautiful girl again, and hear her special purr again, but you’ll never have to part with it ever again. She’s happy& young & healthy again now, & in a mere instant in time you’ll be with her again, even if you live to you’re 90. Death won’t be so bad if we have our babies’ paws reaching out to show us the way. I’m hurting for you, and i’m shedding tears for you too. I love mine too, so much. It’ll always hurt but you will go on, & she is calmly waiting for you, probably napping in that wonderful shady spot with a cool breeze. Black cats always have a special sweetness about them; they truly are special, Sophie included. God Bless.

  3. 253

    I’m so very sorry for your loss. I am giving my guy extra hugs and kisses in honor of Sophie.

  4. 254

    You gave her a wonderful life and she will be waiting for you on the other side of the bridge.

  5. 255
    M. Harding

    I am so sorry to read about Sophie. All of us have been or will be there but each time is different as every kitty is unique. I didn’t know Sophie was a black cat. As the human mom of two black cats, I know how hard it can be for them to find homes especially when they get past kittenhood. How generous of you to give an older black cat her final home.

  6. 256

    So sorry to hear about your loss. I’ve lost countless cats as an adult and a child and it never gets any easier. The toughest part for me is the first few weeks when you have one less bowl to prepare at dinner time. My thoughts are with you.

  7. 257

    I’m so sorry for your loss of Sophie. Thank you for sharing your lovely pictures and sweet words about her.

  8. 258

    I am so sorry for your loss. Sophie looks like a beautiful cat and I’m sure you have lots of wonderful memories of her.

  9. 259
    Babs (formerly Kush's human)

    I’m deeply sorry for your loss. Corny as it may seem, at times like this I always find catharsis and comfort in the “rainbow bridge poem”:

    Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.
    When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

    All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.
    They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

    You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

    Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together….

  10. 260

    I’m sorry for your loss. I actually am in the same situation. I resuced my Toots a little over a year ago. She is over 10 year old, a former stray and she is losing her fight with renal failure. I’m actually going to have to put her down this week. She is the 1st pet I’m losing as an adult as well and it’s tearing me apart. I hope you find comfort in your other pets.

  11. 261

    I’m so sorry to hear about Sophie. We had a similar experience last fall, with one of our cats who had similar health issues. I know it’s not easy, but you gave her a wonderful and caring home in a time of her life where it may have been harder to find a good place for her.

  12. 262

    I’m so sorry for your loss.
    Hugs from France.

  13. 263

    I’m so sorry to hear about Sophie’s passing. It’s so hard to lose a beloved companion, and my thoughts are with you. Sophie was a beautiful cat, and the photos of her are gorgeous. I especially love the shot of her stretched out on your napping husband: what a cuddly, self-possessed girl she was. (I, too, have black cat fur in my keyboard, from my own Marlowe taking command of my computer!) It sounds like you gave her a wonderful life: may those memories comfort you in this difficult time.

  14. 264

    Oh! I’m so sorry for your loss!!! =(
    I had to put my Tyler to sleep last July and I felt exactly the same as you feel now… I know is not easy. But at least you have other cats with you, right? He was 12 years old and had a sick intestine so it was pretty hard to do… And watching him go to sleep and knowing he wasn’t going to weak up was the hardest thing for me… We were together the all 12 years and he was always by my side… Here’s a pic of Tyler… He was very much like your Sophie… All black and fluffy! ;)
    Hope you feel better soon!!!!

  15. 265

    I’m so sorry for your loss. She’s beautiful, and her presence will continue to fill your heart with wonderful memories. I wish you peace in this difficult time.

  16. 266

    You are correct…one is never ready to lose a loved pet. Even after having owned several it never gets easier, nor should it. They become a huge part of our lives, possibly more than our human loved ones do, and saying goodbye in all its permanency leaves us with a void in our hearts that simply cannot be filled. Ever. But time does ease the pain, and eventually you will smile without crying when you think of her. May you find solace in knowing that she was as blessed to have your love as you were to have hers.

  17. 267

    So very sorry for Sophie having to go over the bridge. She was just a lovely cat and our favorite is black cats so she was even more special. Lots of good thoughts and purrs coming to you and your family.

  18. 268

    I am so very sorry. Best to concentrate on the good life you gave her, and that she will always live in your heart! I could not agree more with all that these little creatures give us…truly blessings from God in form of soft furry creatures!


  19. 269

    I am so sorry for your loss and absolutely feel your pain. I lost my Mr. Monroe to diabetes when he was 13 and cried myself to sleep for a week. Hang in there and please know there are others who know how you feel and are thinking about you during this difficult time.

  20. 270

    May your wonderful memories of Sophie bring you comfort and smiles in the days to come.

  21. 271
    Jeanne B.

    So sorry. Been there, done that, never gets easier. What a beautiful cat she was. RIP Sophie.

  22. 272
    Jennifer P.

    I am so sorry to hear about your dear Sophie. She was a beautiful cat and very photogenic – the pictures say it all! My heart aches for your loss, but I can tell that Sophie was surrounded by a lot of love. Wishing you and your family peace and warm, wonderful memories of your time with Sophie.

  23. 273

    Dear Kate…I am so sorry to see this post from you. It made me tear up. :( You gave Sophie a great life and a wonderful tribute here.

    She was very lucky to have been loved so much by you and I’m sure she knew it. I know reading that doesn’t make it any easier but know that my thoughts are with you.

  24. 274
    Rose Ambuehl

    I too have lost a loved “Sophie”. HE (yes I said he) was named Sophie when he came to live with me, and became the love of my life. He became the momma of the new kitten (Mollie) found when she was barely weaned. He laid across her to bathe her with her legs kicking madley and was always there to otherwise keep her our of trouble. I miss her terribly as you must miss your Sophie. Just know she will be there waiting for you on the other side.

  25. 275
    Suzanne Gannon

    They are angels on earth, and angels in heaven.

  26. 276

    So sorry about Sophie. You gave her a wonderful five years.

  27. 277

    RIP, sweet Sophie. You will always be very loved.

  28. 278
    Ana María

    La muerte sólo es el comienzo de la vida…

    La muerte es el comienzo de una nueva vida… hay que morir en las viejas costumbres para aceptar una vida mejor…hay que morir de amor para superar nuestros errores y amar más profundamente…

    La muerte en nuestra vida diaria es la base para superarnos como personas, es nuestro reto para la Vida.

    Un abrazo con todo el cariño del mundo

  29. 279

    I’m sorry to hear about Sophie. My oldest cat was 9 when I got her in 2004. An elderly relative of mine had to name a next-of-kin in order to have a cat in her apartment and she asked me. So I’ve had Mischief for six years now. I’m glad you were there for Sophie and she was loved to the end. I just wish the end didn’t always come to soon.

  30. 280
    Deborah Julian

    So very sorry to read about Sophie’s passing. I truly understand that cats become our best friends and part of our familes. I lost a cat I dearly loved three years ago–have since adopted another– but you can never replace a friend. In time you will get past your grief and your memories of Sophie will just bring you happiness.

  31. 281
    Kimberly Felipe

    My heart goes out to you! I am so very sorry for your loss. It hurts terribly. The memories of your sweet Sophie will help you feel better over time, but truly the pain is real and intense, and there will be a hole where she once lived.

    I empathize with how you feel — I am still sad about losing my two companions after nearly two decades of life within the last two years. I never thought I could “love again” — but the kitties need us! So we’ve adopted a young kitty who has brought great joy to our home. But I will always miss my two beloved kitties.

    Take care. May Sophie’s memory bring you comfort!!

  32. 282

    My heart hurts for you. My condolences on the loss of your sweet kitteh.

  33. 283

    I am so sorry your Sophie is no longer with you, I know she will be forever in your heart.

    I lost my Coco in 1999 and my Roxxi in 2007. A couple of years ago I adopted my own Sophie. She is not a well cat although she is only 3 years old. I try to enjoy every moment I get to spend with her and give her lots of love for the time we have together.

  34. 284

    Deepest sympathies, Kate…

    Nothing can fill the void, but please know that you and Sophie have inspired, educated and shared so many beautiful stories with your readers.

    Your posts remind me of how much my kitty means to me, as I sit and read them with her on my lap every morning. Thank you creating this wonderful community, and our thoughts are with you.

  35. 285

    Reading about the passing of your beloved kitty, Sophie, brought tears to my eyes. It’s amazing how these precious angels can open our hearts to love, making loss so painful. Sophie’s love for you was obviously very deep and true…because she didn’t want to leave you. But when God called her back home to heaven…to give her little body eternal rest…it sounds like Sophie made sure that her fur siblings would be there to comfort you. Thank you for sharing Miss Sophie’s beautiful life and love with us.

  36. 286

    My deepest sympathy for the loss of your Sophie. Her absence in your home is great because of the special bond you shared. I’m sure she thanks you for the wonderful care and love that you gave to her in her final years. Perhaps she has reunited with her first owner and will patiently wait until she can give you purrs and head-butts again someday. We all know that most of our feline companions will pass before we do, but that knowledge does not make it any easier when we do loose them. But, for how ever much pain that loss brings us, the love, and joy they fill our lives with is that much greater! My thoughts are with you to help heal your sad heart :)

  37. 287
    Beth F.

    I’m so sorry for your loss. I feel like I’ve gotten to know your kitties through the website, and I know you must be feeling so sad. Sophie was very fortunate to have found you in her last few years, and I know you brought happiness and love to her every day.

  38. 288

    Farewell beautiful Sophie, and may strength and happy memories live on with your loving humans. @isagold xox

  39. 289

    I know I’m a little late, but I just wanted to tell you how sorry I am about your Sophie – she was a lucky girl to have had you in her life! It’s always hard to lose a loved one and we must remember to appreciate each other while we are still here. I’m sure Sophie knew how loved she was! I am thankful everyday for my sweet girl Jezebel, and I know I would be lost without her, so your story was very touching to me. Please accept my condolences.

  40. 290
    Amy from Texas

    Haven’t checked in with you for several days, just now seeing this. I’m very sorry for your loss. Sophie looked alot like my Bandit who I lost when he was 20. It’s always hard to lose a beloved family member, be they covered in fur or skin.

  41. 291

    Thank you for the reminder to love my kitties while they are with me. I was just living abroad for 3 months visiting my husband’s family and I missed their comforting presence very much. Sometimes I take them too much for granted and they really are such sweet little loving kitties. Very sorry to read about the loss of your own sweetheart.

  42. 292
    Victoria Wesseler

    On March 11, 2010 my 20 year old kitty Dover passed into the next world. She, too, fought diabetes and kidney disease. And, like your precious Sophie, she was my first pet to pass away. She died at home peacefully as my husband rocked her in their favorite chair. He somehow knew it was her time to go and as he began to rock her, she took a few last breaths and left us. I am certain the the hole in my heart will never fully heal. Blessings to you in your sorrow.

  43. 293

    So very sorry for your loss. It is terribly hard and heart breaking to lose your companion/cat. Sophie is in the meadow now and will visit you in your dreams. Sometimes I’ll feel one of my ghost-kitties softly jump up on the bed at night.

  44. 294
    Jodi Gersh

    I am so sorry for your loss. My oldest is 17 and I know what the heart break can be like. I started fostering cats at my local rescue league. It is nice to help those in need. anyway, hope you are doing better!

  45. 295

    Sophie was a real beauty, a real stunner! It’s a reminder of what amazing creatures they are and how much they affect our lives and souls. My condolences.

  46. 296

    My heart goes out to you. I lost my dear Zoe last September. My friends say that Cat Angels are here to teach us more about love. Sophie looked like a beautiful old soul–such magnificent eyes.

  47. 297

    So, so sorry to hear about Sophie. Many hugs to you from Carter, Chloe, and me.

  48. 298
    laura narayani

    To All Cat-lovers: please stop feeding dry food to your beloveds, or at least look into again for yourself. A cats nutritional needs are very simple: if you can’t feed them small mammals they would chose for themselves in the wild, then try to approximate that as closely as possible. Read the ingredients for dry food – does it sound like something that would be healthy for your loved ones? Doesn’t matter how long they’ve been on it and been ‘fine’ – until they are not. It’s also a good idea to rethink any and all vaccines – when is the last time you heard of a rabies case nearby? And especially if you keep your cat indoors (which I hope you don’t). Just THINK above the marketing and our own convenience — cats need 70% moisture and balanced meat. Read up on your own is the least you can do for these special feline beings in our lives – such great teachers.

  49. 299

    I am sorry about your loss. I lost my kitty who was 19 years old. My heart goes out to you.


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