Thank You

Tue, Mar 23, 2010

Loss & Memorial

I just wanted to say thank you so much for all the comments and emails about Sophie’s passing. I read every single one of them and I am completely overwhelmed at how incredible this community is. It is so comforting to know that others cherish their cats in the same way that I do. As I’ve said before, animal people — and cat people specifically — are some of the most compassionate and caring individuals I know and I’m honored to be a part of this group.

Just a little story for you. Over the weekend, I was hanging around the house feeling quite sad and missing Sophie. I sat down in the lounge chair on the catio and Ando — who rarely sits in a lap — hopped up on my lap, settled in and slept in the sun for an hour. While Ando was still on my lap, I started to cry and immediately Mackenzie came marching over and hopped up on my chest to comfort me. There I sat with 30+ lbs of cat on me. Some of the best therapy I could ask for.

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43 Responses to “Thank You”

  1. 1

    Beautiful that you have two comfort cats with you at this time, to surprise you when you need it most.

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    Tanya R

    Non cat people think cats are aloof and uncaring (they probably think the earth is still flat too lol), but cats know when their humans are truly needing some time with them and are always there to lend a paw, even if it’s just their presence for an hour.

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    Isn’t it amazing how they seem to know when you are feeling upset? I am
    so sorry for your loss. There is nothing quite like the loss of a close feline companion. Glad to hear you have other kitties around to provide comfort.

  4. 4

    O those perceptive healing cats ;) *maowr*

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    Cats can feel you, can’t they? It’s amazing and wonderful if you ask me :)

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    Little Doll

    I just read about Sophie and I am very sorry. I hope you don’t ever have to endure any “can’t you just get another cat?” remarks. No cat is like another and cannot replace another. Yes, it is amazing how the loss of so small an animal can leave so large a void. My beautiful tuxedo cat Sabrina, used to jump over me, from one side to the other, in distress when I cried.

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    Hi Kate,

    Again I’m deeply sorry for your loss. Felines are truly amazing creatures and give/know so much more than is credited. Although I believe most cat caregivers are all too much aware of the gifts these lovely beings bestow.

    I had to help my little one, Pax, transition in 2008. It was his birthday, he was 15 and he took a chunk of my heart with him. In his honor I bought a small gold locket with a paw print etched on the outside and a photo of him laser etched on the inside. He was my soulmate and I’ll never forget him.

    May love embrace you during this time.

    cheryl, tatia, obi & pax (1993-2008)

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    They feel the loss too, and rely on you ….

  9. 9

    Cats really seem to know when you need them, don’t they?

    I’m sorry for your loss.

  10. 10

    That is really sweet. I’m glad you have 2 other cats to help comfort you when you need it most!

  11. 11

    Ahhh, nothing like 30+ lbs of cat therapy, I have been the recipient of that kind of love and comfort and there’s nothing better. So sorry for the loss of your little Sophie.

  12. 12

    Hugs, headbutts and purrs from myself and the crew here.

  13. 13

    Hi Kate:
    I was very to sad to hear about your dear Sophie. We lost our girl, Shadow, about 10 years ago and we still miss her. She was the cat that turned my husband (my boyfriend at the time) from “I’m not really a cat person” to “Can you get the phone? Shadow’s asleep on my lap!” She totally melted his heart and he is 100% a cat person now. Our two boys, Rudy and Miles, have him wrapped around their paws! :)

    I’ve always found it so interesting that they know when you need them – like when you are sad or feeling ill.

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    Kerry Winger

    Cats are amazing creatures and add so much to a persons life. I am so sorry for your loss I think it is almost harder than losing a person because of the communication. I am glad that your other furbabies are there to comfort you and you them.

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    I lost a beloved cat to a car accident. I didn’t allow her out, but we were visiting my parents and she escaped just in time for a thunderstorm to roll in. I cried for hours, those harsh sobs that tear at your throat and make your chest sore. My cousin, trying to help, said “it’s ok, you can just get another cat.” I knew he meant well, but he did not get it. No other cat could replace Oroona or lessen my grief that she was gone and, almost worse, that she died scared and alone. I nearly punched my cousin in the face. Sometimes I wish I had :P My other cat, Joule, was also so upset. She spent hours in our apartment meowing at every closed cabinet and door, wanting them open, to make sure Oroona wasn’t hiding in there. We comforted each other. Now, when I am upset and crying, Joule meows at my husband. Bright wide eyes, demanding he fix me! She will not quiet until I pick her up, I think she hates feeling helpless to make me feel better :) But she isn’t, not really. She helps a lot.

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    Babs (formerly Kush's human)

    They know. They know your sadness, and they know she’s gone. Some cats are remarkable in this respect; thankfully, Ando and Mackenzie are among them.

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    For many of us our cats are family. Anyone who doesn’t think they have feelings and emotions and thoughts has never lived with one. My cats have been sources of comfort for me many many times. When I came home from the hospital after having a transplant all four of them, two of whom usually won’t be anywhere near each other, stayed on the bed with me for 3 solid days. They knew I needed them!
    It’s so hard to lose them and every time I say “I can’t do this anymore, no more cats!”. And every time when God sends me another who needs me, and whom I need, it’s worth it all over again!
    I believe with all my heart we’ll see them all again!
    Until then, your other fur babies will take care of you for Sophie.

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    Cat therapy is the best kind. Sorry for your loss.

  20. 20

    I just read your Sophie post. I had to let go of my sweet Daphne, this last Saturday too. She also had been battling a couple of issues and then suddenly saturday she lost all strength & control of her back legs. It was horrible. She was 17. My remaining kitties also have been extra clingy to me. They know I’m sad, but I think they miss her too, and so I talk to them lots and try to explain. My best to you and your clan as we get through this tough time. And ditto to Marie’s post above: “I believe with all my heart we’ll see them all again!”

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    Thank you right back! I look forward to your emails everyday and as I receive them at my office, they brighten my work day. I have lost very special kitties in the past and their passing always leaves a little hole in your heart, they are all such individuals. My three bring comfort and joy to my life everyday.

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    Cats always seem to know when we’re sad, don’t they? My less affectionate cats have been known to do the same thing when I’m upset about something – it’s so wonderfully reassuring.

  23. 23

    Sorry for your loss. It seems that you have some amazing angels to help you. With their love and affection even if it is having to have 30lbs of them on you.

  24. 24

    I’m sure Ando and Mackenzie miss Sophie, too, and were sharing in your grief. There’s nothing quite like fur therapy! Remember the good times with Sophie – she lived a good long life.

  25. 25

    Thank YOU!
    For your daily emails and for sharing your cat-life and for creating this wonderful cat-loving community. We all need, care for and comfort one another in life – human and animal alike. My cats are true healers and I hope I am able to do the same for them when they are in need. As for those who have left us behind already, I, too, believe we will all be together again someday.

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    Beautiful comments from you and the other posters, and hugs to you and to all who have experienced the awful emptiness that comes with a cat going on ahead. Yes, cats are the most intuitive and sensitive of all living beings, and it is they who teach us about compassion and caring — I’m convinced that this is their primary mission on earth vis-a-vis humans.

    You’re blessed to have Mackenzie and Ando and crew in your life. They’ll see you through this – and Kirby will, too, as you continue the tradition of rescuing and passing the love on. ;)

  27. 27

    What a sweet story. Sadly they grieve too and feel the loss of their friend. I believe they are like little angels sometimes and know when we need them the most. Enjoy their love and your memories of Sophie.

  28. 28

    TanyaR (2), beautifully said and I couldn’t agree more!

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    You may even feel tiny footsteps from Sophie coming for a visit on your bed or couch sometime. Not long after I lost my 17 year old cat, Frankie, there were times I would feel him jumping onto my bed and I’d sense his footsteps walking around at my feet like he used to. One weekend I had company over and they slept in the guest room. They mentioned to me they hadn’t slept very good one night because they kept hearing a scratching noise in the room. Frankie did not like closed doors and although I didn’t say anything I knew that was him protesting the door being closed!

  30. 30

    I’m so sorry for your loss, but so happy that you have two wonderful cats to comfort you while you go through this!

  31. 31

    cats really are the best therapy when you’re down!
    i’m so sorry you lost your sophie, but i’m so glad that you still have 2 more amazing kitties to help take care of you!

  32. 32

    It’s so great how they know, isn’t it? When I was in middle school, I got pneumonia and was in and out of consciousness for hours in front of the TV. Both of our indoor-outdoor cats, who were anything but frequent lap-sitters, kept vigil on my lap or by my side the whole time I was sick. I still find it so touching to remember.

    To this day I often prescribe my friends “kitty therapy” when they’re sick… as long as they’re not (TRAGICALLY!) allergic to cats, that is. :)

  33. 33

    I’m really sorry to hear about Sophie’s passing. We also adopted an old cat, a handsome grey and white boy, Sam, from the City shelter who was 10 years old when we brought him home. No-one else wanted an old cat and we thought we could give him a great home, however long (or short) it was for. He lived for another 5 years before liver disease finally claimed him a couple of years ago and I still miss his gentlemanly ways all the time. We arranged through the vet clinic to have Sam privately cremated and when we got his ashes back we scattered them around his favourite spots in the backayrd whilst we sipped on a really nice bottle of champagne and toasted him. I still get comfort from knowing his little presence is around our place and always will be.

  34. 34

    So sorry for your loss. Sweet Sophie was as lucky to have you as you were to have her- these true loves never really leave us, we just have to get used to not seeing them. My heart goes out to you.

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    Kate, I am really sorry and I know that it hurts a lot. Thanks to Ando and Mackenzie it is probably a little bit easier, because they are there for you and support you. Cats are amazing – the way they know when you need them most. My cats (Rysiek-Richard and Marchewka-Carrot) join for support. Take care.

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    10 cat Mom

    All of us cat people do need to stick together, and your blog really shows how well we can support each other in our times of sorrow. All of our kitties, we now have 12 furry felines, and I send you multiple purrs, rubs, head butts, and hugs.

  38. 38

    I know how very difficult it is to lose a loved kitty-one. My husband and I have lost three in the past 13 years we have been together. It is never easy but the feelings of suffering and loss are worth having to have been able to share our lives with such special friends all the years they were alive. Sunday will be the 4th anniversary of my loss of Julie … my absolute kitty soul-mate of 18 years. I will light a candle in her honor as I have every year but I’ll also celebrate Bobby’s birthday on the same day (12 years young). It’s a bittersweet day for us.

    One of my favorite quotes is one by Anatole France:
    “Until one has loved an animal, a part of one’s soul remains unawakened.”
    I think all of us who enjoy and commingle on your fabulous site will agree.

    Peace & love to you Kate.

  39. 39

    Cats, they know. I’m glad you got to have a sweet lap cat for an afternoon in the sun. My household cats Jenga, Ming, Danny and Ming Too are sending chirrups your way!

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    Nothing like cat therapy. Ando and Mackenzie knew you needed some extra kittie love. :)

  41. 41

    that brought tears to my eyes. cat companions are the best.

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    I am so sorry for your loss. Last year, I lost my Siberian Husky after more than 14 years of fierce love and fierce looks. She was my first pet loss as an adult; I still tear up. Fortunately, my cats, Infinity and Beyond were there to console me, and to keep the legacy of dominate stares alive and well in our household. Cat (and dog) therapy is very healthy for the soul.

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    I belong to, an online community for knitters, crocheters, and other fiber lovers. On that site you have the ability to click on a ‘love’ button as a response to someone’s post. If we had that ability here I would visit and revisit in order to click on the ‘love’ button for you. Hugs to you and your kitties.

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